What if the greatest strain in marriage isn’t conflict… but quiet misalignment?
Most Christian marriages don’t fall apart.
They drift.
Couples remain faithful. They pray. They attend church. They manage life well. Yet over time, something subtle begins to thin. Communication becomes functional. Presence becomes rare. Companionship is slowly replaced by coexistence.
Not because love is gone.
But because marriage is carrying weight it was never designed to hold.
In Not Good to Be Alone, Grace Ogbomo invites readers back to the beginning — to God’s original design for partnership. Long before sin entered the story, God identified a relational need and responded with companionship. Marriage was never created to replace God, carry identity, or sustain emotional healing. It was created so no one would have to face life alone.
Drawing from more than twenty-five years of marriage, a decade of pastoral leadership, and years of walking closely with couples who were committed yet quietly struggling, Ogbomo offers clarity, not criticism… alignment, not pressure.
This is not a book about trying harder.
It is a book about returning.
Readers will discover:
• Why many faithful marriages still feel heavy
• The difference between loneliness and aloneness
• How misalignment quietly erodes companionship
• Why marriage was never meant to replace God
• What restores presence without blame or pressure
• How to return to partnership in a practical, gentle way
This message is not only for married couples.
It is also for singles who desire to understand God’s heart before entering a relationship.
Understanding His design changes what you look for, what you build, and what you allow.
If you are:
• Married but feel something essential has grown quiet
• Committed but emotionally distant
• Faithful yet fatigued
• Single and preparing for a relationship rooted in purpose
This book will give language to what you’ve sensed but couldn’t quite explain.
Written with warmth, spiritual depth, and lived experience,
Not Good to Be Alone speaks to those who love deeply, serve faithfully,
and long for a marriage that feels lighter, aligned, and shared.
Because what God called “not good” still matters.
And returning is always possible.